Sunday, 3 April 2011

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OK I BEEN GOIN OUT WIT MY GIRLFRIEND FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS NOW AND WE BROKE UP OVER THE SUMMER AND RECENTLY GOT BACK TOGETHER WE HAD PROBLEMS WITH TRUST AOR ME TRUSTING HER SHE SAY SHE FAITHFL BUT FROM HER PAST ANS THE WAY HER FRIENDS ARE I CANT BELIEVE IT I WANNA BELIEVE FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART I DO BUT ITS SOMETHING HOLDING ME BACK FORM DOIN THAT AND SHE SAY SHE A VIRGIN BUT I DONT REALLY BELIEVE IT FORM THE WAY SHE TALKS ABOUT SEX LIKE SHES EXPERIENCED AND I JUST WANNA KNOW HOW CAN I FIND OUT IF MY GIRL FRIEND IS PHYSICALLY AND REALLY A VIRGIN LIKE MY FRIENDS SAY THAT YOU CAN TELL IF THERES LOOSENESS IN THE VAGINA BUT I DUNNO CASUE HER FRIENDS ARE WHAT YOU CAN CALL VERY SEXUALLY ACTIVE AND HER SHE SAY SHES NOT BUT I THINK SHE IS WE HAVNT HAD SEX YET BUT I BELIEVE SHES OUT THERE HAVIN SEX WITH OTHER BOYS THEN COME BACK TO ME AND ACT LIKE SHES A GOOD GIRL BUT IM NOT UP TO REALLY GETTIN HURT AGAIN CAUSE I DONT THINK I CAN HANDLE ANOTHER HEARTBREAK CAUSE I REALLY LOVE THIS GIRL TO DEATH BUT I CANT TRUST HER AND I JUST NEED ANSWERS AND HOPEFULT SOMEONE CAN TRY AND HELP ME FIND ATLEASE SOME ANSWERS.

Answer
The hymen is a piece of tissue that lies across the entrance to the vagina. It does not obstruct the entrance to the vagina but may be torn during sexual intercourse, thus producing the bleeding which for many years was seen as evidence of virginity.
The prominence and elasticity of the hymen varies and by no means do all women bleed after their first sexual intercourse. The hymen may well have been stretched or broken previously by exercise, tampon usage or by injuries such as the straddling of a bike saddle. 
 

An article in the BMJ states
In our experience of examining more than 1000 adolescents who had experienced vaginal penetration the most common appearance of the hymen was of indeterminate disruption to the free edge.
So called rupture and bleeding of the hymen is not to be routinely expected after first sexual intercourse. (BMJ 1999;318:605 )
Another study showed that 19% of the sexually active postpubertal females had no visible abnormalities of the hymen. BMJ 1998;317:414
Losing your virginity occurs when you first have sex and has nothing to do with broken hymens, which may have happened prior to you first having sex. The lack of bleeding after first intercourse should not be taken as evidence of non-virginity. However some cultures see this as so important that women undergo operations prior to their marriage that will ensure that they bleed on the night of their wedding*If you do get pain and bleeding, use a pad/panty liner and take some painkillers. Sex will get better as you get more experienced, some women bleed the first few times they have sex. Remember not to attempt penetration until you are aroused and make sure that you and your partner use plenty of lubrication (KY Jelly or similar products are easily available from chemists or try blushing buyer if you can’t face the chemist)

2.Answer
Taking a girl’s virginity is a popular male fantasy, but if they stopped to consider the reality of the situation, the fantasy might start to look more like a nightmare. It may be an ego boost to imagine being a girl’s first and taking her precious virginity, bookmarking yourself in the annexes of her mind forever. However, there are aspects of making her a woman that could be less than pleasurable. So, before you unlock that chastity belt, get an idea of what you’re getting yourself into. Here are five reasons not to sleep with a virgin that you should consider before taking the plunge.

1- There’s extra prep work

Unlike a more experienced woman, a virgin really doesn’t know what to expect. This means that you’re going to have to put in some effort before the deed is done and plan ahead to make sure that she’s comfortable and completely willing. It may take some considerable convincing on your part to get her into bed, and while that isn't one of our five reasons not to sleep with a virgin, your seduction skills will certainly be put to the test when it comes to taking a girl’s virginity. Also, the older she is, the harder it will be. If she has managed to protect her virginity all through high school and into her 20s, it will be that much more difficult to persuade her that she should give it up to you.

2- There’s a freak-out potential

When it comes to having sex with a virgin, the potential for her to freak out before, during or after the sex act is quite high. She may decide at the last minute that she doesn’t want to go through with it or she may feel massively guilty afterward for having done it. Because so much importance is put on her virginity, her first time is bound to be an emotional experience, which means that you might have to deal with panic, sadness, guilt, and other unpleasant reactions. She has probably imagined the event for a long time and wants it to go absolutely perfectly. If even the slightest thing doesn’t go according to plan, it could result in tears and tantrums. If you don’t like watching girls cry, don’t sleep with virgins. That’s a lot of pressure and that’s why it’s among our five reasons not to sleep with a virgin.

3- She’ll likely get attached

It is fairly likely that a recently devirginized girl will expect to have a lasting relationship with the guy that bedded her. If you’re not planning on becoming her boyfriend, or at least continuing to date her, don’t sleep with her. It’s really that simple. Very few girls imagine their first time with someone who drops off the face of the earth immediately afterward, never to be heard from again. She’s going to want you to stick around, so if a relationship is not in your plan, consider this point in our list of five reasons not to sleep with a virgin and find someone else to share your bed.

4- She lacks skills

Since she’s inexperienced, she’s probably not going to be that good in bed, and that’s a big reason not to sleep with a virgin. There are exceptions to this rule, of course, since there are plenty of skills a girl can learn before she loses her actual virginity. If, however, she has little experience with sexual activity in general, the encounter is not going to be all that pleasurable for you. If all you want is the power trip that comes from taking her virginity, then you’re golden, but if you want a mutually satisfying sexual experience, you should look for someone who has had time to develop some sexual skills.

5- It could get messy

There is a possibility that having sex with a virgin could literally make a mess of your sheets. Being penetrated for the first time is likely to hurt her and it could result in some bleeding. If the sight of blood makes you squeamish, devirginizing a girl is not for you. A woman’s first sexual experience can leave a very unsexy mess to clean up.

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As you can see, taking a girl’s virginity is not all that it’s cracked up to be. There are groundwork concerns, emotional issues, commitment questions, technique problems, and other more tangible messes to deal with. So perhaps you should leave the devirginizing to the high school boys and look for a sexual encounter that isn’t quite so complicated.

3.Answer

Myth #1: A non-virgin walks with her legs wider apart.
Fact: How a girl walks is determined by her physical build - how wide her hip bones are or how fat her thighs are. It's also determined by her stride. This has nothing whatsoever to do with her virginity!

Myth #2: Hair between the eyebrows is gone after one loses her virginity.
Fact: This is one of the more bizarre stories. Hair between the eyebrows has nothing to do with virginity. If you happen to spot some hair between a girl's eyebrow which had never been there previously. it's simply because she has forgotten to pluck her eyebrows during the past few days!

Myth #3:A girls' fully-rounded backside suddenly flattens after she has sex.
Fact: If this were true, then there wouldn't be many of us walking around with nice, round, fully rear ends! It is impossible to lose tje elsaticity in your backside muscles simply through intercourse.

Myth #4: A virgin's breasts point upwards.
Fact: Virgins are just as likely to have sagging breasts!

Myth #5:One's breasts become larger after she loses her virginity.
Fact: Just like a guy obtains his erection through a rush of blood to his penis, a gal's breasts could also swell when aroused. But this subsides. It is rude and childish to assume that those with ample chests are all non-virgins.

Myth #6: A virgin's urine is clear and sparkling.
Fact: Virginity cannot be confirmed with urine test; only pregnancy can. Besides, the quality of your urine is determined by your water intake - the more water you drink, the cleaner and clearer your urine will be.

Myth #7: A girl who has done it before has "a certain kind of look" on her face.
Fact: This is what many guys would say, and it is purely nonsense. Common sense tells you that there is no such thing as the virgin or non-virgin look!

Myth #8: A girl will definitely bleed when she has sex for the first time. If she doesn't, then she is lying about being a virgin.
Fact: One of the more reasonbale points brought up, this is perhaps the most common excuse for determining whether one is a virgin, but it is a misconception. Bleeding occurs when the hymen, a thin menbrane that covers the opening of a female's vagina, tears during intercourse. Thus, the general belief is that bleeding indicates loss of virginity. However, the hymen could also tear through physical activities like cycling and excessive exercises (like in the case of gymnasts). If tampons are not used corectly, they can also break the hymen. Also, some girls don't bleed after their first intercourse because they have more flexible hymens. Therefore, non-bleeding doesn't mean girls are non-virgins, either.

  1. Sound Advice: Take these claims with a pinch of salt. These so-called facts are either traditional folktales or the output of someone's highly imaginative mind. In short, ignore all the outrageous things people say about how they can tell if a girl is a virgin. The truth is, no physical change will take place when a female (or male) loses their virginity. Only a medical check-up can confirm virginity by affirming the presence of an intact hymen. A thorough check-up can also tell whether the hymen has been torn by a penetrating penis or from falling from a bicycle. Other than that, the only way is to ask, and hope for an honest answer.